run the agent as a pm2 peer instead of a child of officer

the process that runs claude (sidecar/claude/user-instance.ts) had no pm2 entry
and was spawned on demand by the main server, with stdout/stderr inherited. that
made every agent session a grandchild of officer, so pm2's tree-kill took the
session down on every `pm2 restart officer` — the single thing that makes it
impossible to work on the platform while an agent is running.

give it its own entry (officer-agent) and delete the spawn machinery:
ensureClaudeSidecar, spawnAndWaitForRegistration, the 50ms registration poll and
the per-email claudeProcs/claudeSpawnWaiters maps, ~77 lines. officer now spawns
no sidecar at all.

for that to work the sidecar had to stop needing officer to start:

- it resolves the owner from the database (getOwnerUser) instead of reading
  CLAUDE_USER_EMAIL out of the env officer built. single-user is a hard
  invariant, so there is nothing to fan out over. CLAUDE_USER_EMAIL still wins
  when set, for manual runs, and a fresh install waits for bootstrap rather
  than exiting into a restart loop.
- it reads the anthropic proxy secret from the proxy sidecar's own state file
  rather than being handed it in env. lazily, because ensureProxySecret
  persists on a 30s debounce and pm2 starts both processes together.

it registers as 'agent' with capability 'claude', so the registry finds it the
way it finds every other sidecar. that removes the email argument from
killClaude, interruptClaude and clearClaudeSession, which only ever existed to
locate a per-email sidecar by name.

what officer keeps is a short wait-for-capability, because pm2 brings peers up
together and the first request after a boot can beat the sidecar's registration.

also align the two officer port fallbacks in the sidecar (5000 for the socket,
9010 for the rest base) — same instance, so they cannot disagree.

this fixes R1 and R2 from CLAUDE_SIDECAR_ISOLATION.md. events produced while
officer is down are still lost; that is stage 2.

Co-Authored-By: Claude Opus 4.8 <noreply@anthropic.com>

src/servers/api/chat/websocket.ts

@@ -572,7 +572,7 @@ async function handleStop(ws: ServerWebSocket<WSData>): Promise<void> {
         if (isClaudeModel(session.model)) {
           // Interrupt the current turn but KEEP the persistent session alive (background tasks + the
           // warm worker survive). Full teardown is 'disconnect' → deleteSession → _claudeKill.
-          void sidecar.interruptClaude(sessionId, session.email);
+          void sidecar.interruptClaude(sessionId);
           logger.info('Interrupted Claude Code turn via sidecar (session stays warm)', { sessionId });
         } else {
           session._claudeKill?.(); // OpenCode: abort the turn via the stored handle